im married with one child who has EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT and ADHD.
although im toally convinced she also has Aspergers.

unfortunaletly since my kid has been born it has caused me and in
turn my hubby alot of toruble. myself in particular it has brought me
nothing but real unhappiness. as a baby when i held her, like you do
with babies, she would squirm and stuggle until you had no choice but
put her down to sit or lie on her cot. as she got older the pushing
away became more pronounced, until it became obviuos that for wotever
reason she just didnt want to be held.

i told my doc this but apparently it was "my perception" of what
i "thought was happening".
i found this extremely upsetting to the point i started crying and
blaming myself saying its must be me ...she doesnt want me to hold
her..she doesnt like me ...honest to the gods it was that obvious.....

my hubby did alot of the care the first 6 weeks and he sometimes
blames himself ..as if she bonded with him and not me.
over the years we have seen countless social workers and eventually
after saying since she was a baby something is not right,she was
diagnosed.
but things are no better.she will not comply to anything. she will
not co-operate with anything at home, she will not do anything to get
something that she wants, she wont play with her parents like kids
do, and things i have been asked to try with my hubby never work on
her.. she is on a night time 24 hour med, but like i keep saying it
wont make her a nice person, and ofcourse the answer is no.
im at breaking point, i no longer want to be responsible for her. i
have joined an adhd group for some more skills but im so jaded out
now. i have nothing left to give. she has taken all i had. i dont
hate her, she is my kid ...but being brutally honest, i really dont
like her at all.
she is rude , she talks in an inaudible voice that i cant hear her or
make out what she is saying,she will not look at me unless its down
her nose, she completly blanks me , goes to her dad and then blatanly
ignores me. so much so that her dad has to tell her to talk to me,
which she loathes. she will hug other people and their kids, and not
myself, which im sorry it hurts. the only time she will hug is in
front of other poeple in the same room.
since i have asked for help i have been told its my fault; i let it
get to me that she never wanted to be hugged as a baby, that she
never wants to be with me and wants to be and is infact much happier
with strangers, particularly men...which has raised many concerns.
so there we go! thats me! :)) hows you?
and just ou of idle curiosity has anyone read up about INDIGO
CHILDREN? apparently these kids are them ...the next evolution in
mankind???? this is the link i was sent ...see wot you think
http://www.greatdreams.com/indigo.htm

I have a son with ADHD and Aspergers. He is very affectionate, but non compliant. I have an adopted daughter with attachment problems. She is very challenging and it hurts like hell. I can relate to how you feel. I don't have the answers, but I know that when your child can be superficially engaging with strangers, lie, be sly and be really horrible and nasty it is very difficult to live with. I hope you manage to get help.